How I learnt to be bold.

You know who that is above? That is me – mini Rochelle. I was at a funfair; scared of the hustle and bustle of the environment and the myriad of people surrounding me. Being bold and courageous has never been my strong suit. Growing up, I always followed the crowd and tried to blend in. It didn’t mean I did certain things because other people were doing them, but it meant that I was never my own person. It meant that I was never able to develop as a person strongly because I never liked to put myself out there.


Learning to be bold and courageous is the first lesson that God taught me this year. I have been thrown into many situations where I’ve had to literally say a big fat no to fear and obey what God has told me to do. I’ve always known that clearly, boldness is a virtue in the Bible; (Isaiah 41:10) that we all need to aspire too but it was something I didn’t want to work on because I don’t like stepping out in courage and then failing – I feel embarrassed; failure brings a conflict within myself that I don’t like to deal with. I didn’t like taking chances and putting myself out there because I was afraid of making mistakes.

But I slowly came to learn across this year, (and it took a longggg time) that God was just pleased with me for at least trying. It doesn’t matter if I don’t get it right but it matters to God that I try to step out bold in complete faith AND obedience believing God will help me. 2 Timothy 1:7 says that God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind and I hold onto that verse so much because I still get fearful. I get fearful for example of new environments, meeting new people and even new stages of life! However, I’ve come to accept that sometimes when we are afraid to do something we need to go ahead and do it anyway. Why? Because the truth is we don’t ever have to fear because we can ask God for help anytime we need it.

What fear only ever does is our progress but I’ve learnt that what matters to God is not our performance but our relationship. God knows we aren’t perfect but guess what? The devil knows it too and he will remind us of it when we give him the foothold. That’s why 2 Corinthians 10:4-5 says, “The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”

What matters to God is not our performance but our relationship.

– Joyce Meyer

For myself, this year learning to be bold and step out into the unknown has been a big learning curve – a struggle of obedience. There’s the fear thought, “am I making the right choice? What if I mess up?” But there is a huge privilege in knowing and accepting that we don’t live by our circumstances but by what God puts in our heart. The power of God is not in our perfection but it’s in his plan. Everything works together for HIS glory and once I accepted this I found freedom; I didn’t feel this pressure of making a mistake anymore.

We don’t live by our circumstances but by what God puts in our heart.

So lesson 1: Be bold & courageous! For the Lord your God is with you.

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